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I’m a bit concerned that so many people think they’re meant to live with trauma for the rest of their lives. Although… concerned might not be the right word. What do you think? Troubling? Terrifying? Normal?

Like this person commenting on social media:

“thanks to therapy I’ve learned how to live with my trauma.”

Live with trauma.

This is why my uncle wrote about the “sickness of uniformity” in one of his books.

And what my great-great-grandmother, Wenulef, Running In the Sky, warned about when they took our land, squeezed us into reservations, and started assimilating our people into this dominant culture with force and violence.

We’ll forget how to listen, she said.

That’s exactly what has happened.

When we go from living as part of the land to living as part of an industry–– it makes us forget who we are.

Gone are people’s ability to listen to their bodies and energy and understand the natural process that makes real healing possible.

(None of this coping stuff you see in Western culture.)

And we don’t even question it because it’s all we hear and see around us.

Hence, Sickness of uniformity.

But just because this culture normalizes pain, suffering, and living with stress and trauma– doesn’t mean it’s right. It doesn’t mean it’s the way it’s supposed to be.

If you’re so anxious that you can barely get out of bed in the morning. Or doing something simple as going to the grocery store makes you feel overwhelmed. And all you hear is how to COPE with it.

Cope with your trauma. Manage your stress. “Learn how to live with it.”

That is not natural. And you deserve better.

No matter who you are or where you come from, you are meant to live in balance. That means without all these things that are getting in the way of you living your life.

Balance is your natural state.

It’s an illusion created by this culture that we should be able to push through and “perform” while also fighting to survive.

Nothing on this Earth performs while imbalanced.

Not the rivers. The trees. The animals. This land.

I don’t know why we try to convince ourselves that we’re different.

Or why we don’t question the fact that when we look around us in these societies and see everyone do the same thing with the same results:

Becoming sick, injured, anxious, and unhappy.

Broken relationships.

No excitement or energy for living life.

Please–– for all the beautiful things that exist in this world. For your relationships, and your future…

Start questioning.

And do your best to open your mind to a different perspective.

Right now, I’m working on a new free class that answers the questions people ask me most (and that you might be wondering too):

“What does it mean to be in ‘survival mode’?”

“How do you know you’re living in survival?”

“How do I start living and not just surviving?”

I want to help you understand what you’re going through because no one deserves to spend the rest of their life learning how to live with their trauma.

Until then, we still have an “oldie but goodie”-

“The #1 Reason Why People Get Stuck When Trying To Heal From Stress and Trauma– and what you can do to change it.”–– click here to watch it.

That’s all for now.

Keep reminding yourself that whatever you’re going through–– it doesn’t have to stay that way.

Pewkayal,
Mandy Kvyen

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