The other day I started looking back to all the times I’ve felt stuck. The jobs I had where I was miserable and underpaid. When I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life or what my purpose was. And of course, the times I was stuck in unhealthy relationships. We’ve all been there at some point in our lives. Maybe you are there right now and that’s why you are reading this article. But one thing we all have in common is that the stories we tell in our subconscious mind have a tremendous power over our lives.
Unless you know what your fears and limited beliefs are, you will not able to deal with them and work through them. It doesn’t matter how much you dream and fantasize about a better life, you will remain stuck. No matter how much you ignore your limited beliefs, they will still affect how you feel and move through life.
For example, let’s say you want a healthy relationship with another person but you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself. Or you want to have a successful career but you keep telling yourself and most importantly, keep feeling, like you are not enough.
The way you feel about something will determine how you experience that area of your life.
So where do these subconscious thoughts in our minds come from?
These thoughts, your beliefs, most likely comes from someone else or an event in your life.
Like parents, friends, an ex-partner, a teacher, a coworker.
It could be from pretty much anywhere.
It could be a feeling of not being enough or deserving in an area of your life.
Beliefs that you’re not smart enough to get paid better or start your own business.
Not creative enough to find your true purpose and passion.
Not good enough for a healthy relationship.
Not deserving of your dream life.
I see this all. the. time. With clients and course members when they first sign up to work with me.
Or someone reaching out to me and asking for advice on Instagram.
And I know something is holding you back as well.
I want to tell you that there is a way of changing it, right now. To have the power of your subconscious mind work WITH you instead of against you.
You just need to put in the work.
The only difference between someone you see living their best life and someone who’s not is that the first person identified their limited beliefs and then did the work instead of sweeping it under the rug and hoping for it to go away.
Not saying you are ignoring your problems, I just want to give you a little bit of tough love to push you to do the work. Become aware of what exactly is holding you back. What are the beliefs you have always thought was your truth?
Here’s an exercise to help your beliefs:
- Identify the limited belief.
- Where did it come from?
- Change it.
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
A phrase I grew up hearing over and over and it became my false belief. I started thinking back and realized it was not my belief, it was my mothers.
“Money comes easily and is always there.”
“Men are deceitful and always cheat”
A limited belief I had picked up from friends.
I changed it to:
“Men are trustworthy, loyal and loving.”
Go through this exercise on your own in your journals or notes.
Keep it handy so that whenever a limiting belief pops up in your head, you can replace it with your new and true belief.
What’s important is that you don’t repeat the new beliefs like a robot to yourself. Make sure you actually get into the feeling that the new truths bring you.
Now, if you found this exercise helpful, don’t forget to be a good and caring friend and share it with someone who needs it.